Teenage years are an exciting time of life although these years can also be challenging Teenagers to face a lot of problems. They suffer from low self-esteem, they develop stress and depression, they feel incapable of taking decisions, they get confused, they suffer from lack of enthusiasm and feel a lot of pressure on coping with peers and expectations of adults.

Generally, they do not know how to deal with their problems yet they hesitate to talk to their parents. They rely on their friends and internet to find the solution to their problems.

Friends and internet do not always give right answers. As a result, the teenagers remain entangled with their problems and sometimes get into bigger troubles.

If you are frustrated because:

Then you are just a human. We all feel these things sometimes. A fighter, however, is not limited to them.

So here are the tips to make these years, from 15 to 18 the most exciting and enjoyable time in anyone’s life:


  1. Wise selection of friends is important:


Small children do the things as per their parents’ guidance, but as they grow older, their cognitive abilities develop and get stronger and they start believing that their own thinking is always right.  As a result, they do not seek parents or guardians’ advice. Consequently, parents are forced to try to get information. They want to know what their child is involved in and want some control over their lives. This leads them to impose rules and limits on the freedom of their teenage children.

On the other hand, teenagers develop a need to have independence. This creates conflict between parents and children and as a result, sometimes teenagers get into wrong friendships because they trust their friends more. Since children trust friends more, so friends play a major role in building the personality so it is important to choose the friends wisely.


  1. Stay away from Peer pressure:


Reasons why teenagers face peer pressure:

All the above things are not going to help anyone anyway. Hence, it is good to be friendly with everyone but one should never lose one’s identity.


  1. Follow safety rules while driving:



  1. Get regular health checkups:



  1. Have healthy lifestyle:



  1. Consult professional counsellors:

Whenever you are stuck up in some problems which you are not able to discuss with your parents or guardians, discuss them with a professional counsellor. They will advise you more maturely then your peer group because counsellors have both experience and knowledge of such issues.


  1. Career counselling:

Even if you have decided your career, you must consult a good career counsellor for his expert opinion regarding your choice. In case you have not yet decided what to do, you must meet the counsellor for sure.


  1.  Learn how and when to say ‘No’:

Mostly teenagers feel uncomfortable to say no to their friends and as a result, they do the things which they do not like.

So here are tips to say No:


  1. Learn how to deal with Bullying:

Bullying is an act of a person to harm and scare someone who is weaker and alone. People who are strong gang up to harm the weaker ones. This starts with the children in schools.

The students, who are victims of bullying become frustrated, depressed and develop low self-esteem and hatred. The psychology of the child becomes complicated and it becomes very difficult to come out of negativity from this experience.

Both boys and girls are involved in the act. It should be stopped completely from the school and school authorities must maintain the strict discipline to rule out its possibilities.

However, it does not happen. So here a few tips to face such negative experiences:


  1. Stress and anxiety:

Stress can come from outside, such as family, friends, and school. It can also come from children themselves. Just like adults, children may expect too much of themselves and then feel stressed when they feel that they have failed.

When a child is in stress symptoms like feeling nervous or anxious, feeling tired, procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities and feeling overwhelmed, having negative thoughts and experiencing changes in sleeping habits are shown. Changes in eating habits (eating too much or too little) are also seen in stress.


Tips to manage stress and anxiety:

“How differently can I think about this?”

“What are those things which I can control?”

“How differently can I plan?” Take a moment before you respond.pexels-photo-267967.jpeg

  1. Work on developing Inner strength:

Inner strength, often called “resilience,” is the ability to cope with the stressful situations that life throws at everyone. Everyone is born with this capacity and one should work on it throughout our lives.

Building inner strength begins with simple actions or thoughts, such as planning for what to do next and learning to accept changes in lives. Inner strength helps a person face problems in life.

Children who have inner strength:


How to develop Inner strength:


“Whenever something negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it.” ~Eckhart Tolle


  1. Self-esteem:

Self-esteem is a person’s belief in himself or herself. The self-esteem of a person is reflected by a person’s day to day activities.  How positively and productively he or she does the things in life depends on his /her core belief in himself/ herself. Although self-esteem varies from time to time, the pattern usually leans toward a healthy or unhealthy view of self. A person achieves real success in life only when he/she has healthy self-esteem.

Although building self-esteem is a lifelong process, the foundation of self-esteem should be established in childhood by elders. However, a teenager can develop this virtue of his own by being aware of a few things which he/she usually ignores.

Acknowledge the love and affection of parents and guardians. Parents are always there to help and guide you. Hence, understand and accept them with their shortcomings. They are also humans who can make mistakes.

Tips to develop healthy self-esteem:



  1. Checklist to know whether you have depression:


Symptoms of depression


The symptoms of depression are often overlooked at first. It can be hard to see that symptoms are all part of the same problem.

Whether depression is mild or severe, there are treatments that can help.

Teens may benefit from counselling. It can help them change negative thoughts that make them feel bad.

Medicine may be an option if the child is very depressed. Combining antidepressant medicine with counselling often works best. A child with severe depression may need to be treated in the hospital.

A thing that can be really helpful in coming out of depression is developing an attitude of service. If anyone focuses doing something for the betterment of society, he can make his life meaningful and purposeful. And his focus shifts towards a bigger purpose rather from thinking only about his own self. Societies, where values of service, sacrifice and community participation are there, do not have these issues of depression and suicides. The Sikh community is a great example of this.


Summary: At A Glance


Life is a combination of both happiness and pain. Pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional. Having a positive outlook towards life gives you the strength to move forward through painful times. Remember that your life has a meaning to this world. With all its infinite possibilities, this life is a gift for everyone. It can become a source of happiness not just for oneself but for many others as well.smilies-funny-emoticon-faces-160824.jpeg